My Chronic Pain Life

Fifteen years ago my youngest son was born. What should have been a beautiful and amazing time in my life was marred by extensive pelvic prolapses. We joke that “the baby pulled everything out with him as he was born”. After the birth of our son, my husband could not intimately touch me without it causing excruciating physical pain and side effects that lasted for several weeks at a time. We were led to believe that a hysterectomy and repair surgery quickly was our only real option at this point. So, when my baby was five months old and still breastfeeding I went in for major surgery. 

It was intensely painful and horribly traumatic. And things only got worse as the surgeon who performed my hysterectomy and repair surgery failed horribly and left more damage than repair. There were two more surgeries in the next couple of years attempting to repair and restore my pelvic floor and internal function. The trauma of all these events triggered autoimmune issues that I struggle with still.

There are many more details that will one day be carefully shared, but I am still unable to be intimate with my husband due to pain. The chronic pain from various autoimmune struggles will always bring it’s own unique set of challenges. But, I am not without hope.

My life today is pretty good. Some days are too painful to do much, but most days are manageable. I am still homeschooling and my youngest will graduate in 2025 if all goes well. My husband and I just celebrated 36 years of marriage and love each other deeply. We have raised 5 children to adulthood. Our oldest two children have blessed us with 5 grandchildren between them. We serve together in a wonderful church. The Lord has blessed us richly and I look forward to sharing more with you soon.

What is your favorite Bible Verse? Mine is Romans 8:28.

Godspeed… ~ Tiffani